School Attendance & Refusal.
Parents all want the best for their children, including their education. However, sometimes children may refuse to attend school, leaving their parents wondering what to do. School refusal is a complex issue that can be due by a variety of factors, including mental health or academic problems. In this post, we will discuss what school refusal is, some reasons why it can happen, and how parents can support their children's reintegration back into an academic setting.
What is school refusal?
School refusal is when a child regularly and persistently refuses to attend school or has difficulty staying in school. School refusal is different from “truancy”, which is when a child skips school without parental permission. School refusal can affect children of all ages, but it is more common in elementary and middle school-aged children.
What causes school refusal?
School refusal can be due to a variety of factors, including childhood mental health conditions (such as anxiety, depression, social phobia, or separation anxiety), academic difficulties (learning difficulties, ADHD, autism spectrum disorder), relationship factors (bullying or harassment at school), a strong desire not to leave home (agoraphobia, concern for the safety or wellbeing of their parents or family members and wishing to support them from home), environmental factors (such as sensory issues and difficulty accessing education), and overtime a secondary accommodation to not being at school (falling behind in class, losing relationships with peers or teachers, increasing anxiety, and positive associations with comforts at home such as gaming consoles).
How can parents support their children's mental health?
If your child is refusing school, it is essential to understand that there may be underlying mental health issues causing this behaviour. The first step is to speak to your child's teacher to determine if there are any academic or social issues that might be relevant to the child’s refusal to attend school. If these issues are not present, you may want to consider seeking professional help from a mental healthcare worker and family doctor for further assessment.
A mental health professional can assess your child in managing any anxiety, depression, or another mental health condition that may be contributing to the school refusal. They can then provide treatment, such as cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) or even medications, to address underlying mood issues. It's important to note that seeking mental health support does not mean that you are a bad parent or that your child is "broken." Mental health issues are very common and treatable, and seeking help can improve your child's wellbeing and academic success.
In addition to seeking professional help, there are things parents can do to support their children's mental health at home. Here are some suggestions:
Create a predictable routine: Children thrive on structure and routine. Having a consistent morning and bedtime routine can help your child feel more secure and reduce anxiety.
Encourage physical activity: Regular exercise can help reduce stress and improve mood. Encourage your child to engage in physical activities they enjoy, such as bike riding, swimming, or playing sports.
Practice relaxation techniques: Teach your child deep breathing or meditation techniques to help them manage stress and anxiety.
Talk to your child: Let your child know that you are there for them and that you want to help. Encourage them to share their feelings and concerns with you.
Reinforce positive behaviour: Praise your child for attending school or taking steps towards attending school. Positive reinforcement can help increase motivation and confidence.
In conclusion, school refusal is a complex issue that can be caused by a variety of factors, including mental health problems. As a parent, you can support your child's mental health by seeking professional help, creating a predictable routine, encouraging physical activity, practicing relaxation techniques, and reinforcing positive behaviour.